EVOLUTIONARY LOVE
Private coaching for couples ready to grow beyond repeating patterns and create a more conscious, intimate, and deeply connected relationship.
For the couple who wants to become:
• Able to meet each other more fully
• Safe enough for truth and vulnerability
• Free from repetitive relational loops
• More intimate and alive
• Clearer in feminine and masculine expression & healthy polarity
• Hopeful about their relationship again
• Capable of repair without blame or collapse
• Growing together rather than growing apart
Grow Together
Love relationships bring up our unresolved traumas, by design. The places of resentment, silence, and need in relationship are the places that need safe space to unfold and resolve. And relationship is actually the greatest playground for true evolution.
You don't have to carry the emotional burden of your partners' trauma - there is a mutual opportunity for growth and sovereignty when you learn a new way of relating.
So much is possible.
Your relationship is alive. It can evolve.
Many couples still love one another but no longer know how to reach each other.
The same conflict repeats. One person pursues while the other withdraws. Conversations become charged, circular, or strangely empty. Intimacy diminishes—not necessarily because the love is gone, but because the relationship has reached the edge of what its current patterns can hold.
This does not always mean the relationship is broken beyond repair.
It may mean that the two of you are being asked to learn a more conscious way of relating.
I help couples notice and transform the patterns occurring between them in real time. Through present moment embodied awareness, honest sharing from the present moment, and carefully guided relational practices, you learn how to create greater safety, mutuality, polarity, communication and intimacy together.
This is not talk therapy. We will not spend our time digging endlessly through old stories or deciding which partner is right.
We work with what is alive between you now—and build the capacity to meet it differently.
Here are some of my all-time favorite client testimonials.
Sally, wife
"I certainly had fears about doing this type of relationship work. It's difficult to open the vulnerability of ourselves and our partnership to a stranger. After more than twenty years with the same partner, I had developed some unhealthy energetic patterns that were not serving either of us.
The types of codependent, almost smothering, energies that I was using to try and connect with my partner were stifling him and depleting me. Without the attunement and embodiment practices offered by Sarah and the sacred space she held for us, I'm sure we'd still be stuck in old patterns."
Amanda, wife
"My husband and I decided to work with Sarah as a couple to help us through some looping patterns we just couldn't talk our way through. When we started working with Sarah she taught us how to take a pause, explore where we were both coming from, and when we approached the issues we were having through a feeling process, rather than just talking it out, we were able to move THROUGH the looping pattern and find answers and resolution.
This process was very different from any talk therapy we tried, which had not been effective for us. In our case the coaching she does has been the MOST effective thing we have done to find help in getting through the looping patterns we had occurring in our relationship. Her coaching is trauma and archetype informed. Until we worked with Sarah, my husband and I really didn't realize how much past traumas and archetype patterns were playing out in our dynamics and hindering us from moving forward.
We now feel like we have been able to move past the looping patterns we had going on for years. We walked away with tools and resources that have continued to enable us to grow as individuals and as a couple. We are grateful to be in a place where we feel like we are connected again at a soul level and we have a renewal of intimacy as a couple."
Jacob, husband
"I really liked the arc/flow of alternating between 1:1 sessions then together as a couple to apply/practice together what we learned. I also appreciated how you could adapt on the fly to our current needs and use your intuition to guide where we went.
I became more attuned to my body through noticing & attunement exercises, getting in touch with my own body and learning to describe that showed me I can go deeper, and by doing so I can go deeper with my partner. I learned to energetically penetrate my wife and I feel more empowered now."
We work with what's happening right now
and get lasting results.
Old wounds that happened in the past continue to play out their pattern in the present.
You don't have to "talk it to death" to understand it, and because of brain chemistry, that likely won't work anyway.
The patterns are all inside the body and the energetics between you. This work helps to gently reflect those patterns to you, and then we make gentle shifts to the energetics of the pattern that you will feel in the overall relationship.
So this is different and doesn't require a lot of story-telling. It will require stillness and vulnerability, but you get to maintain your sovereignty, needs and boundaries.
I am also responding to the present moment and providing what the situation calls for. This could include:
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Sharing present-moment and body-based notices
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"Tiny experiments" done in 10-15 minutes that reveal more than weeks of conversation ever could
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Different ways to communicate needs
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Coaching specific behavioral patterns between you
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Practices for listening without fixing or defending
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Repairing longterm patterns in the relationship
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Strengthening healthy feminine and masculine polarity
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Guided practices to continue between sessions
You do not only understand the pattern intellectually or control it with ideas of repair or accountability.
You begin to have a different and embodied experience with one another that shifts patterns physically, emotionally, and energetically between you.
Choose the level of support your relationship needs.
Every relationship arrives at a different moment. Some couples need a focused experience around one issue. Others want structured practices and support over time. Some are ready for a sustained, deeply held process.
Each option begins with an inquiry so that we can determine together which level of support best fits your relationship. Please fill out the form below to explore the options with me.
Foundations Course + Private Coaching Sessions
Move through my seven-module Foundations of Conscious Relating course together, with private coaching to help you apply the work to your actual relationship.
Over approximately eight weeks, you will learn the foundational practices, experiment with them between sessions, and bring what arises into our private work.
Course + 4 sessions: $3,000
You have 3 months to complete.
Course + 8 sessions: $6,000
You have 4 months to complete.
Full Spectrum Couples Coaching
over 4 months
This four-month private container is the deepest level of support for couples who want a bespoke process with consistent attunement to persistent patterns, significant disconnection, or an important evolution in their relationship.
I meet with you both together and individually (on Zoom) so that we can understand the full relational dynamic, work with what is happening in real time, and support new patterns as they become embodied between you.
16 total sessions over 16 weeks
Investment: $10,000
In-Person
Couples Intensives
I will customize an experience for you based on your goals. When we meet, I will hold the space and intuitively lead you through the journey to unblock patterns, face relationship challenges gently and closely, and experience the breakthrough.
Going deep in-person allows us to slow down, relationally be in the space together to meet what is arising.
Fully customized.
Investment begins at:
Half days: 3 hours $1200
Full days: 5 hours $2000
A Note on Readiness.
This work requires the willing participation of both partners. It is designed for couples who can take responsibility for their own experience and who are genuinely open to practicing new ways of relating.
Couples coaching is not appropriate when there is active abuse, coercive control, untreated addiction, an immediate mental-health crisis, or fear of retaliation for speaking honestly. In those circumstances, specialized therapeutic or crisis support is a more appropriate first step.
Thinking this might be for you? The next step, after you have spoken to your partner, is to fill out the form below.
We will all 3 meet together to see if we're a good fit before committing.
Ready for next steps? Fill out this form.
Located in Asheville, NC, USA.
Serving clients globally.
Frequently Asked Questions
1 / What is the session structure for the full spectrum coaching?
Weeks 1, 3, 5, 7, 10, 13, 14, 15, 16 we all 3 meet together in a 75-90 minute zoom call.
Weeks 2, 6, 9, 11 I meet with each of you separately in two different sessions those weeks.
Weeks 4, 8, 12 are integration weeks where you practice, catch up, and integrate what we've done so far.
During sessions, we will be responding to what is alive in your relationship, I will be responding and guiding/coaching. We may do "tiny experiments" while together or you bring the results to the session. These experiments reveal the patterns that we then gently correct through repatterning behaviors, clarifying intentions, or trying something new.
2 / How is this couples coaching trauma-informed?
I developed this work, including the tiny connection experiments I lead couples through, based on research-based information in mindfulness, trauma healing modalities, and somatic awareness. Then I combined that with what I know about feminine and masculine energies, the evolution of how we heal the traumas of separation between feminine and masculine, and my own lived experience of being a woman in a body.
This work is trauma-informed because we never rush or disrespect your body, system, or the experience you are having. This is a way of relating that centers the importance of making sharing safe. We center with exactly what is happening in the present moment and open space for that to be witnessed. I provide methods for developing this between you.
3 / How does this help us to communicate better?
Often, when couples have difficulty communicating, it is because there is a trigger behind what is being said that they aren't aware of, they're trying to be "heady" about something that is actually very somatic, and because they aren't speaking about their own experience and listening with compassion.
In this space, I teach you a formula for 1) Noticing what is going on for you, 2) Communicating from that place with your partner, 3) Listening to your partner's notices with compassion, 4) Allowing one another to have your own experience, 5) Speaking your needs somatically and having them met if your partner is willing.
This deepens emotional, physical and spiritual intimacy, and you are communicating better both verbally and nonverbally!
4 / Can I back out once I start?
It is very normal for there to be resistance once we start this process because it can get vulnerable. However, there are no refunds, so please be sure to talk with one another and with me thoroughly before beginning.
The reason that I am not going to give you the "easy-out" is because we are creating a sacred container within which transformation can occur. While this is safe, easeful, and trauma-informed, it will likely also test you. There is safety in staying in the process, and allowing the alchemy of change to happen in a non-pressuring way.
This is a commitment.
5 / Why this is coaching.
We work together within a defined period of time, with clear intentions for what you want to change or strengthen in your relationship.
Sessions are experiential and oriented toward practice. I offer direct reflection, specific guidance, and relational exercises that help you work with what is happening between you. You will also have practices to use in your relationship between sessions.
This work is trauma-informed, but it is not psychotherapy, crisis intervention, or treatment for a mental-health condition. Some couples choose to work with me alongside their individual or couples therapist.